Making resolutions feels strange after experiencing deep loss. Any sort of planning or dreaming – is there any point when you know more of life’s vicissitudes could be around the corner? You tried to dream once, of a life filled with children, family vacations, visits to grandparents, kids off to college, retirement – together. Now she’s gone and […]
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Happy new year, folks! I hope you’ve all started off well with crushing those resolutions. I know I have, because one of my big ones is to write more! More on my resolutions in another blog post that will follow in the next few days. For now, I’m going to share some reflections on where […]
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As a caregiver there are going to be many moments when it feels as if you couldn’t bear to face one more day, one more piece of bad news, or one more setback in your loved one’s health. These feelings are not because you don’t care deeply about your loved one. It’s simply because being […]
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Today, July 4th, 2018, would be Julia’s 30th birthday. Though we still celebrate Julia, as we should, on this day, it’s no longer her birthday. Or at least, it’s no longer the day on which she transitions from one age to the next. She is now ageless. For her, time has disappeared, like a road […]
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Major life events change you. I’m not sure if this is a controversial statement or not but I get the sense that many people don’t want to believe it. Many people are uncomfortable with the idea that you can’t always be 100% in control of your identity. Many people think that you can always choose who you […]
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To be honest, I have a hard time being honest. At least with people I don’t know well. It’s not usually because I’m ashamed of anything or hate talking about my struggles. It’s usually just because I don’t have the energy to engage in the long conversations that go along with opening up. But I’ve […]
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My new website is live! Finally. To check it out, click here. Took me a little longer than expected, and it’s still not perfect, but if I waited until it was perfect it would never get out. I basically share resources or thoughts that I found helpful during Julia’s cancer journey. It’s a simple site – […]
Read MoreMost cancer caregivers think so much about their loved one that they don’t take the time to get support themselves. As a caregiver, it’s normal to experience a lot of stress. But when you do experience stress, depression or other struggles, it’s important to seek help – for the sake of your partner, and for […]
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Important Note: I am not a therapist. Nothing in this post is a substitute for professional therapy or advice. Grief can be debilitating. Hopefully, by providing you with some background on grief, what it is, and how it can affect us, it can become just a tiny bit less debilitating. The image of grief that comes […]
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The Emperor of All Maladies is not a history of cancer. It’s a biography of a monster. What Siddhartha Mukherjee conveys in The Emperor of All Maladies is that cancer is a living, breathing, adapting, and insatiable illness. Mukherjee meticulously records every human attempt to make this monster extinct, all of them failures in their ultimate goal. But […]
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