Andy’s Widower Blog

To be honest, I have a hard time being honest. At least with people I don’t know well. It’s not usually because I’m ashamed of anything or hate talking about my struggles. It’s usually just because I don’t have the energy to engage in the long conversations that go along with opening up. But I’ve […]

My new website is live! Finally. To check it out, click here. Took me a little longer than expected, and it’s still not perfect, but if I waited until it was perfect it would never get out. I basically share resources or thoughts that I found helpful during Julia’s cancer journey. It’s a simple site – […]

November 5th was my 30th birthday. I suppose turning 30 is strange for most people, saying goodbye to your 20s. But moving into a new decade of life is not the strangest thing about turning 30 for me. There has been so much change in my life recently that turning 30 almost loses its novelty […]

Growing up, I was a pretty fearful child. I don’t think it was for any profound reason – that was just who I was. I was shy, fearful of social embarrassment. I wasn’t too energetic, preferring the safety of sitting on the couch watching sports. I did play a lot of sports, but didn’t play […]

I’ve been distracted from blogging for a while (more on that below) so I wanted to write a brief post on some of my recent thoughts. You’ll see why in the post below but some of my endeavours recently have been moving more slowly than I would like. This includes the new website I’m working […]

I’d like to discuss the idea of questioning God. I know this is a controversial topic, but I’m not sure that it should be. During Julia’s and my long journey with her cancer, questions inevitably were raised about how God is working. We weren’t actively looking to discredit God, and we still 100% believed He […]

Last week I watched the critically-acclaimed and Oscar-favourite Manchester by the Sea. It’s definitely the best movie I’ve seen this year and I think it should win Best Picture. The reason is that it takes a real look at grief. It doesn’t shy away from fully exploring the gritty, messy, uncomfortable aspects of grief. Without giving any big […]

Julia’s desire was that the blog would continue in some way after she passed. Although I will never be able to live up to how she chronicled her story in such a powerful way, and with such strength and peace from God, I will attempt to jot down some thoughts on here once in a while. […]

UPDATE – 01/13/18: To clarify, the live stream link below can also be used in perpetuity to watch the recorded video of the memorial service. So please pass this on to others who may want to watch it. It remains unsearchable right now. Andy again, posting some more info. Excuse the use of the blog […]

I want to begin by thanking you all for your amazing support over the last week or so. I have received so many messages there is no way I will be able to respond to all of them. Julia and I were always blown away by the support we received from family, friends, and total […]